You can’t start a new chapter in your life, while you keep re-reading the last one.

You can’t start a new chapter in your life, while you keep re-reading the last one. Sometimes you have to turn the page and move on.

Often people find themselves wondering when things will change when life will be better, or when they will no longer feel the pain of circumstances gone by. I read a quote that staggered me;

“To heal a wound, you have to stop touching it.”


As humans, we have a way of “creating our own suffering.” When it comes to painful wounds from the past, we replay the event over and over again in our minds. Each time, the pain intensifies. We have toxic friends, family members, or relationships, yet we continue to accept their phone calls, their texts, and their invites to hang out. Never setting up boundaries to prevent them from dragging you back into the toxicity you are hoping to avoid. We suffer setbacks and major disappointments, and we set up camp in the valley of defeat.

Here’s how we handle these moments:

  • We REHASH it with our friends…
  • We RELIVE it in our minds…
  • We RE-ENGAGE with the very people who hurt us…
  • We never REVERSE the pain because we have yet to stop REHEARSING the pain.

When you learn to let go of the last chapter of your life, you free up the energy to embrace the new one. This is a Biblical concept. In 1 Kings 18:21, Elijah asked the Israelites a stunning question. “How long HALT ye between two opinions?” In other words, how long will you remain INACTIVE between two conditions of your mind?

You can’t move forward until you learn to stop living in the past.

  • You ARE NOT defined by your mistakes.
  • You ARE NOT defined by your pain.
  • You ARE NOT defined by disappointments and setbacks.
  • You ARE defined by your ability to dust yourself off and turn the page.

Here’s how the Bible says we should handle these moments:

  • “one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead,” – Philippians 3:13 ESV
  • “Remember not the former things, nor consider the things of old…” – Isaiah 43:18 ESV.
  • “Jesus said to him, “No one who puts his hand to the plow and looks back is fit for the kingdom of God.”” – Luke 9:62 ESV.

Stop touching your wounds. Stop re-reading the same chapter. Let God be your healer and the author of your new chapter of life!

Published by Joshua McElhaney

Joshua McElhaney has served over 15 years in ministry, serving as both an Assistant Pastor for over a decade, and as lead Pastor. During his time in leadership, Joshua learned many valuable lessons about leading. Using his own experiences and the troves of Biblical treasures, McElhaney has created resources that will enlighten, empower, and enable leaders across the spectrum to lead the way God has called them to lead. Joshua married Karena, his college sweetheart, in June of 2007. Together they have three beautiful children; Mayli, Jaxson, and Asher.

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